October 20, 2009

Years of Turbulent Marriage

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Marriage coveted lifetime of each pair is not easy to come by. And will need to struggle with the husband and wife to continue to keep it from year to year. Following years of marriage prone to watch.

FIRST TWO YEARS: FULL OF STRUGGLE

This is the years that indicates whether the couple "newlyweds" could survive in the following years. Many who succeeded beyond it, not a few who decided to get divorced, too. Because, in reality this is actually started. Each side saw the real, who partner.

Be prepared to accept what is called depression newlyweds. After the party, the couple took his own home and learn to live independently as a husband and wife. This is where the division of roles and cooperation starts. There are smooth, some are not. Many things are a priority that must be resolved together. About
money, for example, who should regulate. Also how to spend leisure time together, handling in-laws, the laws and other extended family. Infants born later will make the whole rhythm of the father and mother changed. Clearly, it caused anxiety challenge.

In order to survive and go smoothly, in the first years of this couple should have already started discussing about how to solve problems in case of conflicts, also discussed the expectations of each party.

Couples who can get through this period are those who always have a positive view of her partner, do not give up easily, and will together find a way out in every issue. Although the first years are difficult, they will still remember him as the first years of full intimacy, affection, and mutual learning. It is also important, can be valuable lessons and experience to take the following years.

SEVEN YEARS: MUST WASPADA

Ever hear the term "the seven years Itch"? This is the seventh year that makes "itch". After many years together, the couple had started to find patterns and rhythms of the more obvious marriage. However, the desire each of which is readable and physical closeness and emotional is not guaranteed that the intimacy and intimacy continued.

After seven years in pairs, many married couples begin to get stuck in a routine housekeep. Husband and wife also got busy with their own affairs. Mother taking care of children who started school and growing up, my father, too busy struggling with the increasingly promising career. Not to mention the demands of the growing needs of large families, making increasingly busy father with additional work that can make money.

All that have consequences in the marriage relationship. Because each of busy, time to be alone diminished. As a result, the intimacy was threatened. Even more worrying, since each busy with his own affairs and all things running routine, the more intimate relationship sebagaihal routine visits only for biological needs it. No longer an expression intimacy and affection. If not careful, each party may feel hot and itchy, like people who are trapped. Just a little temptation or see new things more exciting outside the home, threatened to make a commitment.

That is why many an affair or infidelity that occurs after 5 or 7 years of marriage. The couple tried to get out of the things that make it saturated. Among other things, a relationship with someone entirely new.

To keep the passion and intimacy remains lit, do a second honeymoon, revision and re-marriage relationship intimacy what patterns can be applied, according to the age of marriage. Do not expect too much of that in a short time everything will change like a new bride. What is important is the desire to remain committed and renew intimacy.


FIFTEEN YEARS: hectic

In the fifteenth year, emotionally and physically, the closeness of husband and wife getting stronger. Many problems can be settled, such as the house was bought and established the family finances. But the next challenge came in this year. Just like previous years, problems that arise are more saturation. Plus family togetherness is also diminishing. For example, children who entered pre teens, start hanging out more outside the home, and busy with school affairs. Father was at the peak of his career, as well as working mothers.

No wonder if in the early years is easy to make an appointment to have dinner with the couple in a romantic restaurant, now even hard. It's hard to ask him to spend time romancing because preoccupations.
Physical changes of each party, for example, widened body shape or wrinkle on the face of increasingly visible, also gave birth to their own anxiety. Each was no longer attractive and sexy in the eyes of their partner. And inadequate sense arises. Couples no longer fears aroused, can lead to an intimate relationship. Most feel insecure is realized by refusing when asked to cuddling. In fact, because each party had so long slept in one bed, must have known their partner's body. So, the problem really should not be obstacles in having sex. In fact, because the emotional attachment grew stronger, able to make intimate relationships become more solid.
Indeed, hell, do not imagine an intimate relationship with the same frequency with a new bride. But that must be remembered, no longer the number, but the quality. Although in one month can be counted on the fingers, do different variations to give an update. Begin giving surprises sweet, such as sending SMS to his wife, "What if we meet this evening in the hotel x and spent the night without the kids?"

Later years

Simone Signoret, famous writer from France, in one of his novels to write, "The chain does not bind the marriage, but the chain's eyes. Hundreds of crocheted chain every day together, which binds continued for years. That's what makes a marriage survive, not the passion and even the sex! "
Thus, although 5, 10, even 25 years of marriage had passed safely, never complacent. There, lo, a new month anniversary of marriage to 25, then divorced. What article? Proximity sometimes make us complacent. We feel already know what the needs of couples. In fact, every human being is always needed refreshment and the surprises in his life. Included in her marriage.

Although the marriage seems perfect, there's no harm to sit down together every year, such as wedding anniversary, to look back, what was actually escaped the attention of both the concerns about the husband-wife relationship. Are we sensitive to the needs of the couple? Model tenderness and intimacy. what we want, along with the marriage age ? What
a lump or a constraint on all the things that can interfere with the relationship? Well, all that should be reviewed again, no matter how old your marriage. No one can guarantee forever will run smoothly, if each party complacent and indifferent to the situation that seems perfect marriage, but to save time bomb. Now know what to do?

October 18, 2009

10 Ways of Developing Brain Child

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. There are two basic components in a child's brain development, which is a safe environment and positive experiences. When a baby is feeling depressed, the brain will respond by producing cortisol substances. High cortisol levels will slow the development of the brain. Safe and comfortable environment needed to help the baby brain development. Give a response when the baby cries and babbling.

Experience received each day will also help the brain development of children. Activities carried out in everyday life, like taking him to the market or to the bookstore is very important for the formation of brain cell development network.

Here are 10 tips for parents to build a base of the brain development of children:
1. Give care and affection that adequate during pregnancy.
2. Give adequate nutrition. The first six months of infant life, provide adequate nutrition to breast milk.
3. Provide a safe environment and comfortable for children.
4. Talk to your baby. Make eye contact when talking to children. Do not forget to always smile to the child.
5. If you must leave the child, look for the high-quality care.
6. Recommend a variety of music on children, and sing together.
7. Give real interaction with the child for brain development. Do not let children watch TV for too long. Limit the time.
8. Give space for children to be able to interact with peers.
9. Relieve stress on parents. Parents who are stressed tend to shift the stress to their children. When you feel stressed, try to talk to someone close to you.
10. Remember, your brain will never stop growing. So, give as much stimulation continuously

October 17, 2009

When Children Ask about Sex

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. The development of information technology to make our children very easy to get information about anything, including sex. Not infrequently, they get the information freely triggers curiosity. How should parents be ?

Discussing sex with children was very strange indeed, but it is better for children if the source of information about it obtained from the parents. That way, children can understand what sexual relationship, and how to make him act on it with a reasonable portion.

Many studies conclude, how to talk about sex to children is a form of open discussion and honest. This means, parents have had to create safety for the children to talk about anything, too, since they were children. That way, when you initiate the discussion, the children do not feel middle diinterograsi by his parents. The following guidelines Prevention collected from several studies that have:

1. The time is right to begin discussions about sex to children is when they enter primary school age. This age is the age enough for children to understand the message we convey. Every time a child asks, as weird as any questions, try to react normally. Thus, the child will not feel afraid to find answers from his parents.

2. If you feel uncomfortable to start a discussion, make an adult movie or song that was caught his attention as an intermediary. Recommend whether it's a feeling in love, healthy friends with the opposite sex, and most importantly how to make decisions for yourself.

3. Make the library and religious leaders as sources of additional information the child. This will help your child get an idea, how should the opposite sex relationships, family relationships, and friendships formed. Thus, the child can understand that any relationship that exists has a sense of responsibility to respect others.

4. Limit your child interaction on the site that provide excessive information about sex. This means, parents still have to monitor that any information received by the child according to his needs

October 16, 2009

8 Habits that Could Ruin Relationships

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Not infrequently a broken relationship just because a small custom made by one of the couple. Relationship is very tight and could not be separated can fall apart because of problems that are considered "insignificant". Glamor magazine properties register anything that can trigger your rift and the he. This list;

1. Can not accept
Your lover wants to get the best out of him is a good thing. However, do not you want to make changes in the husband up to his appearance. Try to accept what he's there. If this is what is to him so badly and it was time to change, then try to say it nicely. Do not criticize or force you to change drastically. Because the messages he would receive was, "You're not good enough for me."

Try to enforce rules 80-20. That is, when you're with him, express what you admire about him, do this as much as 80 percent. Until when you say things you do not like about it, then it will not sound as one of the worst points in the list of your eyes.

2. Volatile mood
We live in an age that makes people nervous. No wonder when the stress hit, we can be angry-angry at the couple. In everyday life, the sudden mood changes can be forgiven. However, imagine if we lived with the couple who often experience mood swings (a drastic mood changes). You must be running away. Well, if you feel you are experiencing periods of mood swings (usually towards menstruation), try to divert your mind from the things that can make you want to be angry.

3. Gossip
Nobody wants to be gossip. So, when you're there is the problem with him, try to try to solve it in an adult. Try reducing the desire to tell every detail of your problem with your spouse or friends to the nearest parent. Not only will you be embarrassed when the fight was over, but you also will make the he felt betrayed. As a partner, you'll want to keep a secret between you and him alone rather than damage your reputation and your partner in the eyes of others.

4. Melodrama
If you consistently call every time a friend of the office that makes you pissed off, remove them from your friends list on Facebook, or threatening to break every time there is a difference of opinion, do not be surprised if he was looking for another woman. It is exhausting if we should always try to calm the couple who likes to dramatize the situation at any time.

5. So the second mother
Your husband must love his mother, and she must love you. However, when you treat every day like a child, then you will make him want to run away from you. Children tend to do the opposite of what he was told his parents, when the command did not want him to do. This also applies to life coupled with the type of relationship as mother-child (who is too cuddle).

6. Too often with
Spend time with your loved ones is one of the advantages of dealing, but there is a difference with a relationship of conjoined twins. Many men interested in women independent and confident. However, often the woman who originally had the character changed 180 degrees as a partner. Women can be very dependent, and requires a very much from each other. Occasionally take the time to your own or with your friends. Let him enjoy his time alone. Do you know what the benefits of enjoying "me time" like this? You so often miss the him, but so have to talk.

7. Jealousy
Although he often reminds you how much he loves you, but it did not stop to check your cell phone when he was in the shower. Or, constantly pouting every time she looked beautiful. Little jealousy is sometimes necessary in a relationship. But accusing him of having an affair or bombarded with questions every time he went alone too, will create world's most patient person screaming. Check once again, lest you envy against the him are unfounded.

8. Too comfortable
At the beginning of a relationship, both parties must make sure to find a way to be the best. However, over time and routine, we tend to be lazy and do not want to try to keep warm relationship. Humans love to be wooed and seduced, just like you, too. The fun of a relationship is finding new things from the couple and trying new things with him. When a woman stops to try to show the best of himself to the couple, the man will feel that their partner no longer love it. Show your partner that he is still very valuable in your eyes. How to provide nice surprises for him. He will appreciate your efforts and tried to repay

October 14, 2009

Having Ideal Age Children

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Many women are asking when is age appropriate or ideal to have a child. Because women will be pursued by the age of childbearing age and prone to get pregnant. Age is an important factor in determining the ideal time to conceive. Women's body will experience a change in his life, because that woman wants to have children at an ideal age. In addition to the age of physical condition is also a deciding factor, a young woman may be more experienced and capable of raising children.

Physically, the ideal age for pregnancy is between the ages of 18 to 20 years. Because at that age a woman has little chance of complications and have a healthy body and lush.

One study also showed that a woman's fertility begins to decline after age 20 years and will decline rapidly after age 35 years. Because of the age was considered ideal to have a child.

But there are other factors that should be considered by women. Children are the future investment and should be women who want to have children should be ready financially and emotionally. Should be considered also whether to give the child full of love, health and good education and whether the child will affect the careers and ambitions of the mother.

While teens more at risk of complications in pregnancy, and infant mortality is higher occur in pregnant teenagers. Teenagers who have become mothers are not ready financially and emotionally to have a child.

For women aged over 35 years is not physically ideal age for having children. Because at that age a little of the hormone progesterone, which is an important hormone to help investment eggs in the uterine lining. Women aged 35 years and over was unlikely to get pregnant naturally and a higher risk of miscarriage.

Of course the most important thing that should be considered in determining when to have children are prepared physically, emotionally and financially. Because it may be happening outside of what is considered ideal.

Fathers and Mothers Have Different Roles in Providing Knowledge to Children

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. It is expected that parents understand child development and keep up with knowledge. Just like children, parents also have a gender and a different temperament that contribute to the ways that differ in parenting. In general, the father and mother have an equal role in parenting their children. But there is little difference in the touch of what is shown by the father and mother.

Motherhood
1. Foster feelings of love and love to children through a long interaction involves physical touch and affection.
2. Growing language skills in children through the activities of storytelling and storytelling, as well as through activities that are closer to child, ie, speaking from the heart to the children.
3. Teach about gender roles of women, about how to act as a woman, and what is expected by the social environment of a woman.

Role of fathers
1. Feeling confident and competent in children through play activities are more physically violent and involve both inside and outside the room.
2. Growing need for achieving the desire to introduce children through the child activities of the various stories about the ideals.
3. Teach about gender roles of men, about how to act as a man, and what is expected by the social environment of man.

The role of parents in child rearing change over the growth and development. Therefore, parents are expected to understand the phases of child development and keep up. The child needs to perform certain actions on the environment to be able to develop complex ways of looking and intelligent on every experience. It is the task of parents to give children the experience they need to develop a perfect intellect
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