Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

February 07, 2024

Trust Me, You Don't Want to Miss This: How to Keep the Trust in Your Relationship

Trust Me, You Don't Want to Miss This: How to Keep the Trust in Your Relationship
How to Keep the Trust in Your Relationship
Tips and Tricks on Domesticity So, you're in a relationship. Maybe you're head over heels in love, or perhaps you've been together for years and are now married with a growing family. No matter where you are in your journey, one thing is for certain – trust is the foundation that holds every relationship together. Trust is like the glue that keeps all the pieces intact, and without it, everything can fall apart.


Maintaining trust in a relationship is crucial, but it's not always easy. Life throws curveballs, emotions fluctuate, and doubts can creep in. However, if you're committed to nurturing your bond, rest assured that there are ways to keep trust alive and thriving. In this article, we'll explore some of those strategies and help you breathe new life into your relationship.

February 05, 2024

Letting Go and Growing Up: How to Foster Independence in Your Children

Letting Go and Growing Up: How to Foster Independence in Your Children

Tips and Tricks on Domesticity , Hey there, parents! Parenthood is a beautiful journey filled with many ups and downs. One of the biggest challenges we face as parents is finding a balance between nurturing our children and letting them spread their wings to fly independently. It's that bittersweet moment when the training wheels come off, and we realize they're not our little babies anymore, but rather young individuals ready to conquer the world. So, how do we foster independence in our children? Let's dive into this exciting topic!

January 24, 2024

Navigating the Safety Costs with a Part-Time Household Servant : A Closer Look

Navigating the Safety Costs with a Part-Time Household Servant : A Closer Look
Tips and Tricks on Domesticity. In today's fast-paced world, balancing work, family, and maintaining a pristine home can be an overwhelming task. Many households are now turning to part-time household servants to ease the burden. However, along with convenience comes the responsibility of ensuring the safety of both your family and the helper. In this blog post, we delve into the various safety costs associated with hiring a part-time household servant and offer practical tips on creating a secure environment. Let's jump right in!

January 19, 2024

Navigating the Baby Blues : A Real Mom's Guide to Finding Peace

Navigating the Baby Blues : A Real Mom's Guide to Finding Peace

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . Hey there! Are you a soon-to-be mommy or know someone who is expecting? Well, buckle up because today we're going to talk about a topic that doesn't receive as much attention as it deserves: baby blues syndrome. Now, before we dive into the nitty-gritty details, let's keep the vibe casual and stress-free. After all, we're here to help and provide some useful tips to ensure a smooth pregnancy and a healthy start to parenthood!
 

October 29, 2009

Help Wife When Pregnancy

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Pregnancy is a wonderful time for couples who are married. The presence of a new family member who is a combination of father and mother into a separate prize for them. However, the pregnancy was not easy, especially for a woman. Physical or emotional changes made women uncomfortable with the situation.

As a husband who loved his wife, of course he want help her through this period. What else can a husband ?

Talking to babies in the womb
By stroking the baby's stomach and invites you to talk, it will help your baby recognize his father's voice. Heavy father's voice makes your baby to know her better than mother's voice. This is also the mother who conceived him happy to see a good relationship between father and son.

Pay attention to the couple
Forms of attention can be given for example to make juices, massaging the legs, stroking her head, or other forms of attention. Understand, that this moment his wife was having an unpleasant situation, then the attention given to help a wife get through this.

Give confidence to your wife
When pregnant, most women are not PD with his situation. Seeing a growing body fat can make a woman think she is not beautiful anymore. So a man can increase his self-confidence by praising him or did not refuse when asked to make love. Remember, that he became fat because it was pregnant with your child and you also participates to made that way.

Help you prepare for the birth of his wife
This can be done for example by accompanying your wife walk or follow pregnancy exercise together. This can help reduce the fear of your wife giving birth knowing you will participate.

As a husband, you'd want your wife and children survived. So the help and attention of a husband is very valuable for the wife. Show your love to the wife as a promise which you've spoken to him during the marriage.

October 20, 2009

Years of Turbulent Marriage

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Marriage coveted lifetime of each pair is not easy to come by. And will need to struggle with the husband and wife to continue to keep it from year to year. Following years of marriage prone to watch.

FIRST TWO YEARS: FULL OF STRUGGLE

This is the years that indicates whether the couple "newlyweds" could survive in the following years. Many who succeeded beyond it, not a few who decided to get divorced, too. Because, in reality this is actually started. Each side saw the real, who partner.

Be prepared to accept what is called depression newlyweds. After the party, the couple took his own home and learn to live independently as a husband and wife. This is where the division of roles and cooperation starts. There are smooth, some are not. Many things are a priority that must be resolved together. About
money, for example, who should regulate. Also how to spend leisure time together, handling in-laws, the laws and other extended family. Infants born later will make the whole rhythm of the father and mother changed. Clearly, it caused anxiety challenge.

In order to survive and go smoothly, in the first years of this couple should have already started discussing about how to solve problems in case of conflicts, also discussed the expectations of each party.

Couples who can get through this period are those who always have a positive view of her partner, do not give up easily, and will together find a way out in every issue. Although the first years are difficult, they will still remember him as the first years of full intimacy, affection, and mutual learning. It is also important, can be valuable lessons and experience to take the following years.

SEVEN YEARS: MUST WASPADA

Ever hear the term "the seven years Itch"? This is the seventh year that makes "itch". After many years together, the couple had started to find patterns and rhythms of the more obvious marriage. However, the desire each of which is readable and physical closeness and emotional is not guaranteed that the intimacy and intimacy continued.

After seven years in pairs, many married couples begin to get stuck in a routine housekeep. Husband and wife also got busy with their own affairs. Mother taking care of children who started school and growing up, my father, too busy struggling with the increasingly promising career. Not to mention the demands of the growing needs of large families, making increasingly busy father with additional work that can make money.

All that have consequences in the marriage relationship. Because each of busy, time to be alone diminished. As a result, the intimacy was threatened. Even more worrying, since each busy with his own affairs and all things running routine, the more intimate relationship sebagaihal routine visits only for biological needs it. No longer an expression intimacy and affection. If not careful, each party may feel hot and itchy, like people who are trapped. Just a little temptation or see new things more exciting outside the home, threatened to make a commitment.

That is why many an affair or infidelity that occurs after 5 or 7 years of marriage. The couple tried to get out of the things that make it saturated. Among other things, a relationship with someone entirely new.

To keep the passion and intimacy remains lit, do a second honeymoon, revision and re-marriage relationship intimacy what patterns can be applied, according to the age of marriage. Do not expect too much of that in a short time everything will change like a new bride. What is important is the desire to remain committed and renew intimacy.


FIFTEEN YEARS: hectic

In the fifteenth year, emotionally and physically, the closeness of husband and wife getting stronger. Many problems can be settled, such as the house was bought and established the family finances. But the next challenge came in this year. Just like previous years, problems that arise are more saturation. Plus family togetherness is also diminishing. For example, children who entered pre teens, start hanging out more outside the home, and busy with school affairs. Father was at the peak of his career, as well as working mothers.

No wonder if in the early years is easy to make an appointment to have dinner with the couple in a romantic restaurant, now even hard. It's hard to ask him to spend time romancing because preoccupations.
Physical changes of each party, for example, widened body shape or wrinkle on the face of increasingly visible, also gave birth to their own anxiety. Each was no longer attractive and sexy in the eyes of their partner. And inadequate sense arises. Couples no longer fears aroused, can lead to an intimate relationship. Most feel insecure is realized by refusing when asked to cuddling. In fact, because each party had so long slept in one bed, must have known their partner's body. So, the problem really should not be obstacles in having sex. In fact, because the emotional attachment grew stronger, able to make intimate relationships become more solid.
Indeed, hell, do not imagine an intimate relationship with the same frequency with a new bride. But that must be remembered, no longer the number, but the quality. Although in one month can be counted on the fingers, do different variations to give an update. Begin giving surprises sweet, such as sending SMS to his wife, "What if we meet this evening in the hotel x and spent the night without the kids?"

Later years

Simone Signoret, famous writer from France, in one of his novels to write, "The chain does not bind the marriage, but the chain's eyes. Hundreds of crocheted chain every day together, which binds continued for years. That's what makes a marriage survive, not the passion and even the sex! "
Thus, although 5, 10, even 25 years of marriage had passed safely, never complacent. There, lo, a new month anniversary of marriage to 25, then divorced. What article? Proximity sometimes make us complacent. We feel already know what the needs of couples. In fact, every human being is always needed refreshment and the surprises in his life. Included in her marriage.

Although the marriage seems perfect, there's no harm to sit down together every year, such as wedding anniversary, to look back, what was actually escaped the attention of both the concerns about the husband-wife relationship. Are we sensitive to the needs of the couple? Model tenderness and intimacy. what we want, along with the marriage age ? What
a lump or a constraint on all the things that can interfere with the relationship? Well, all that should be reviewed again, no matter how old your marriage. No one can guarantee forever will run smoothly, if each party complacent and indifferent to the situation that seems perfect marriage, but to save time bomb. Now know what to do?

October 18, 2009

10 Ways of Developing Brain Child

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. There are two basic components in a child's brain development, which is a safe environment and positive experiences. When a baby is feeling depressed, the brain will respond by producing cortisol substances. High cortisol levels will slow the development of the brain. Safe and comfortable environment needed to help the baby brain development. Give a response when the baby cries and babbling.

Experience received each day will also help the brain development of children. Activities carried out in everyday life, like taking him to the market or to the bookstore is very important for the formation of brain cell development network.

Here are 10 tips for parents to build a base of the brain development of children:
1. Give care and affection that adequate during pregnancy.
2. Give adequate nutrition. The first six months of infant life, provide adequate nutrition to breast milk.
3. Provide a safe environment and comfortable for children.
4. Talk to your baby. Make eye contact when talking to children. Do not forget to always smile to the child.
5. If you must leave the child, look for the high-quality care.
6. Recommend a variety of music on children, and sing together.
7. Give real interaction with the child for brain development. Do not let children watch TV for too long. Limit the time.
8. Give space for children to be able to interact with peers.
9. Relieve stress on parents. Parents who are stressed tend to shift the stress to their children. When you feel stressed, try to talk to someone close to you.
10. Remember, your brain will never stop growing. So, give as much stimulation continuously

October 14, 2009

Fathers and Mothers Have Different Roles in Providing Knowledge to Children

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. It is expected that parents understand child development and keep up with knowledge. Just like children, parents also have a gender and a different temperament that contribute to the ways that differ in parenting. In general, the father and mother have an equal role in parenting their children. But there is little difference in the touch of what is shown by the father and mother.

Motherhood
1. Foster feelings of love and love to children through a long interaction involves physical touch and affection.
2. Growing language skills in children through the activities of storytelling and storytelling, as well as through activities that are closer to child, ie, speaking from the heart to the children.
3. Teach about gender roles of women, about how to act as a woman, and what is expected by the social environment of a woman.

Role of fathers
1. Feeling confident and competent in children through play activities are more physically violent and involve both inside and outside the room.
2. Growing need for achieving the desire to introduce children through the child activities of the various stories about the ideals.
3. Teach about gender roles of men, about how to act as a man, and what is expected by the social environment of man.

The role of parents in child rearing change over the growth and development. Therefore, parents are expected to understand the phases of child development and keep up. The child needs to perform certain actions on the environment to be able to develop complex ways of looking and intelligent on every experience. It is the task of parents to give children the experience they need to develop a perfect intellect
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October 08, 2009

Understanding the husband molester Orientation

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Although nearly everyone agrees that infidelity brings bad consequences for the family, still cheating behavior occur everywhere regardless of a particular social class. With no intention of ignoring many facts about the affair by the wife, this short note will only be little talk about the behavior of the husband's affair a man's wife.

Not that the man who paid a mediocre will not infidelity, but usually the man who has enough money to finance the affair is more potent activity to be unfaithful. Not just about money, cheating man usually are those who have power. Because of their arrogance, infidelity is considered as a means to demonstrate his power.

Drastic change of status, such as from middle management level to senior executive positions can make someone feel giddy. He will be separated from his colleagues, the work challenges that may not be understood by their partner. At this point maybe he'll find someone to talk I can talk with ease to reveal the contents of his heart. The need for someone to talk to these higher when communication with the wife did not go well, could occur because of educational background or a different social.

The children are growing up and demanding more attention, must divide their time between career and family, was enough to make a wife out of time and ignore the need to share a husband. There are also husbands who are looking for another woman because she was too dominant. But still this is not a reason for someone to break a promise allegiance. However, this situation might encourage the husband to find someone else who can give him attention.

Praise from colleagues, the intensity of the meeting too often, a text message from the former, and little attention to other forms of long could make hearts soar, too. Equality of hobbies and interests, the same chemistry, plus a meeting of high intensity could be a trigger dangerous.

Actually only a few men who wore an affair for reasons of physical attraction. Despite having a beautiful wife but when the house was always mamakai clothes are, not keeping clean, the face is always covered cosmetic tools (wear a mask, hair dirol), while just a pretty face shown when outside the home, a long course men can get bored and looking for a more interesting scene outside the home.

September 18, 2009

When the couple were in debt

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Sometimes the source of the tangled financial problems did not always come from our own. We also often can not escape the hand when the people closest to us in debt.

The bad again, this couple's financial problems are often the main problem that causes damage to relationships that have been developed. Therefore, before this problem occurs, there should refer to some tips for addressing the couple who were in debt.

Honest with Financial Condition
Honest attitude toward the couple not only need to apply in social life. In any financial problems, honesty and openness is also important to implement. Mutual disclose how many assets each, how much revenue generated per month and how much spending, too, including how much and what loan or debt burden that still must be repaid, may be the initial step of openness that can be done.

Although reveal about the ownership, honesty is not necessarily a weapon to use the assets to cover debt partner in the future. But honesty and openness is more intended to allow each partner to understand the financial capabilities of each. Thus the correction will be material to the debt problem at hand. Also be a reference to determine the next steps to resolve the debt problem in this together.

Joint Budget Design
After the data on assets and income-expenditure budget is obtained, which needs to be done then is to think about the budget draft him. Put all thoughts, considerations and options to find a way out of this debt problem. For example, by determining the scale of spending priorities, calculate the income-expenditure budget in detail, looking for other income alternatives and make the option to delete some expenditure items.

Remember ! With or without marriage, your spouse is the closest person who needs your help when he was tangled problem. Therefore, do not always think that you are burdened with all these issues before you to help find a way out.

Remind More
Maybe one day, you'll also affected by debt problems of the couple. For example, you have joined in order to save money aside for future investment. Throughout the couple comply with the rules that have been defined together, no matter if you have to share the burden it. But once the couple did not comply with the budget, immediately scolded and reminded that you are also burdened because ulahnya.

If necessary, ask the reason why he was back in debt again. Then try to remind the more actively involved in her life. For example, if the reason he was swiping a credit card because it can never say no to hanging out. Maybe it's time you come hang out with the him and his friends. If the reason he could not resist spending, limit the travel schedule to the mall. Or the couple can not say 'no' to friends who owe him. That way you can act as a reminder and a spokesman for the couple could not say "no".

Or sometimes you engage in hobbies or traveling show, so you can always remind him to comply with the principles that have been created together. Do not hesitate to engage with the side of the life he previously did not you touch. Once again, this is a problem with you and your partner.

Resolve Debt
When the couple were in debt, as a good partner you also have to be rational to settle the debts he had. Do not always blame or wash your hands because the debt was not for your purposes. But find out the reason why he owes and think that the debt needs to be resolved so as not to accumulate in the future.

In order not mounting, assured the couple that the debt must be repaid to the bottom. Do not just pay the minimum payment. For example, the minimum payment was 600 thousand, it should pay 650 thousand. That way the debt principal is also slowly decreased and was not impressed at the way the place. If budget allows, pay the debt repayments as well.

Also prioritize spending to cover the debt. If possible finish all the installments as scheduled. If it is not possible or too large debt repayments, then prioritize the largest debt repayments. By completing the most debt will further reduce the burden of expenditure.

And do not ever make a new debt to cover old debts. This will make a couple more consumption and debt to trivialize this issue. If you need to sell assets that can be sold quickly. Maybe it sounds dear, but it will be a valuable lesson for the him. That before starting the habit in debt, which must consider the risk of losing assets ?

Lifestyle Change
Most people who have a lot of consumer debt, having the wrong lifestyle. For example, couples prefer to shop at exclusive boutiques in department stores than with masalnya products. Or more like hanging out in cafes than to week end at home.

If it were so, try to discipline the bad habits. But that does not mean we are trying to remove the extreme habit. First, let him take himself what he had done. And show by your calculation that the habit will hurt your future plans together. For example, the two of you plan to buy a home will be the longer materialize, or children's education costs will also trimmed, the risk of losing assets, danseterusnya.

It is expected that it would arise the awareness of her. If we play forbid what is clearly wrong according to us, which happened exactly the stealth he owed, and we secretly paid. If you have this, even so a vicious circle only. Was never completed.


Credit Card Wisely with
Often the debt problem caused by the twisting credit card use is not wise. Before that happens, we need to know the principle of using credit cards wisely. Here are some principles of the use of credit cards should be instilled in our minds.
- The credit card is not a substitute for cash instruments, but he is only one facility for purposes that do not pay too covers cash in the wallet.
- Credit cards are also not necessarily be taken anywhere because it will make us easy to use.
- We recommend that you use only a credit card to pay for things that are very important, as if there is a need to travel suddenly, there was a sick family member or an accident, and so on.
- Complete the installment as soon as possible and do not delay because the credit card interest rate will also continue to grow.
- Do not be tempted ongoing promo! As a special discount which was held at the department store or restaurant. Although the impression can be much more expensive, but it will make us a consumptive

September 14, 2009

Ways To take part Doubles

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Many women who now play doubles. As housewives and career women. The problem that often arises is, difficult to balance these two tasks. Here are some tips for you.

1. Set Morning Routines
You should be disciplined and strict in regulating the morning routine for the whole family, including your child get used to. Get up before the kids wake up, do mild exercise such as yoga or moderate exercise and drinking a glass of hot coffee. Prepare clothes, shoes, uniforms, and your child's lunch the night before. In addition to avoiding panic, it also avoids debate with your children that sometimes feel not match your outfit chose. For breakfast, prepare a practical such as bread, cereal or instant noodle.

2. Daily Monitor children
If you work near the small school, there's nothing wrong drive her to school. Help her homework. If you have a maid, regularly communicate with him in order to know what activities and child development. Think of him as a friend who could be invited to the discussion. Jka little sick, you need to work together with her husband, particularly about the division of care tasks. If you do not have a maid, you can ask for help close relatives or neighbors who can be trusted to care for her. You can control the little things over the phone while in office.

3. Spend some time in the Night
Although tired after work, spend a little time for the little guy. Just do the little things like accompany them watch television, read a book or cook dinner together. Occasionally, on weekends invite them to dinner at a restaurant or on vacation out of town. Use the time together is to ask what activities and little experience. For example, "Earlier learn anything in school?" or "fun camp activities, what?"

4. Communication With Husband
Although busy working and taking care of children, do not let you forget the husband. He also needs your attention, you know. There are some activities you can do with a husband, for example, watch television, eat lunch or dinner together and email each other at work. To be successful alone with her husband at home, should tidurkan first child so you both can talk more freely or having sex. To maintain the flame of romance between you and your husband, there's no harm in you both set a date as romantic as going out first. In order to not get 'interference' from the little, you can leave him with a parent or left at home under the supervision of your servants.

5. Do not Let The Expense
Busy taking care of household jobs and jobs as career women often make you stressed and depressed. Stress is unavoidable, but can be reduced. Confident and happy with what you have achieved. What is important, enjoy your role as a mother who could see your children grow and develop. Moreover, in doing the job, do not ever make your dual role as a 'shield' or a reason. Little sick, should not be a reason so you can take leave. If your child is sick, let's say if you do need time off, no-frills sick child.

6. Simplify Schedule
Arrange daily schedule that includes household activities and work and try to obey. Not only applies to activities of everyday homes, this simplification also applies to your grooming routine. If your time in the morning mepet, avoid the use of make-up that takes a long time, like mascara. In addition membubuhkannya hard, you also will have a hard time cleaning it. Choose make-up of simple and practical. In addition, you also need to arrange the schedule associated with your work. If you usually have a bad habit of delaying the work, immediately eliminate those bad habits. The sooner you do the task from the boss, the better.

7. Communication With the Little Master
Communication with each teacher who teaches your child or the guardian class will help you learn to recognize the development of education and little character. If you have trouble teaching a little thing on, such as homework, you can ask for advice to teachers.

8. Involved in the Child and Husband
Get involved in their activities. For little, you can join the parents association at her school. This is one of the means to supervise and monitor the activities of the child. As for the husband, it could not hurt your husband to accept invitations to attend events attended by colleagues. Because you need to know with whom your husband be working.

9. Use sophisticated technology
To have your life more easily and regularly, do not hesitate to use the technology, ranging from communication devices such as mobile phones to household equipment like washing machines, microwave, and a rice cooker. If you miss with your friends and do not have time to meet with them, why not call or send SMS their course. Spend a little time, at lunch for example, to call your friends or sending electronic mail (email). As a variation, also send an electronic greeting card (egreeting) when they berulangtahun.

10. Relax
You need to relax and do fun things to yourself. For the time, you can adjust the daily schedule. Read a novel or magazine, sit on the couch while snacking, listening to music or watching your favorite movies are some alternatives. If you do not have time to do it, the bathroom can be a fun place to ourselves. Soaking in warm water, luluran, maskeran, and creambath can be a fun activity. Alternatively, just take the whole family for a vacation on the weekend. If you and your family watching hobby, select the appropriate film for all ages.

11. For Task
This is the most important thing. In order for a loss you can not do a dual role, should divide the chores for all your family members, especially husbands. For example, if you serve the kids go to school, ask your husband to pay the phone bill and electricity to the bank. In order to run smoothly, you need to make a deal with the husband about what tasks you have to do both.

If at any time you or your husband can not do 'job' because there are unexpected needs, immediately say that the solution can be found. Do the same thing for your baby. Teach him a daily schedule to teach him discipline. Familiarize your child to do activities they can do themselves, such as combing hair, dressing, or tying shoelaces.

12. Be Glad with Your Fun
Quite often your dual role raises questions of perception and the people around you, including parents and friends. For example, your mother commented, "You better not work anymore enggak to have time to ngurusin children and husband." Your mother's statement may make you feel guilty because it was true. But should you throw away those feelings.

Although your parents are people who are experienced in raising you, but they do not know how exactly your life. Remember, you have the right to determine your life path. But if the feeling 'guilty' is actually coming from you, for example, you feel less family support, try to make some changes. Simplify your daily schedule, reduce or switch off the profession. Be sure that you do for the sake of your family and not to please others

September 06, 2009

Five Ways to Prevent Divorce

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. Gates marriage seemed a beautiful gate eager to pass by her when she started growing up. As a result, the desire to marry her boyfriend was greeted with delight. But the marriage was not as beautiful as she led her parents' household, his sister, Tina's friend and also my friends or as imagined. He should be encouraged to continue to seek to coupled with the fact that different and of course trying to change it.

Greg, her husband was not as clean and as dating serapih first. Greg is also a figure impatient, stingy and jealous after marriage. Worse yet, the old Beni is a good listener is very cool and impress always ignored. What must be decided at the age of marriage she is still the rest of the corn?

Disappointed ? Of course you can. But think for a divorce? Hold on. There is a way she could travel to compromise with her husband, even though it is not easy. What if it also happens to you?

If she now seemed dirty and not always able to put all things in place first, if not sooner, it is better rapihkan your own directly. If their squalor, became bolder and can not be tolerated, you are entitled to request a change. However, that should be noted, the habit was not easy to change. If you can, should gradually. Open the eyes of her husband that you do not like the habit.

If he becomes impatient person, why do not you correct yourself if you own that are slow in doing something? If grooming is necessary for how long? If this is how well you do that an hour before you go with her husband.

Communication is an important factor to strengthen the fabric of the love of husband and wife. Communication is not merely talking about work or children, but also about your relationship. So if the husband is no longer a figure of listeners like going out first time, ask your careful attention to get him to fully about this.

Different reality in a household it is not a new thing anymore. However, many ways to react in order to find the best solution. Here are 5 simple tips to overcome the fact that different;

1. Old picky things that annoy you. Such tests do about the values important in your life. For example, issues of honesty, loyalty, adequacy or cleaning materials.

2. Question, whether the things that annoy you about a matter of principle or of practice? When it comes to habits, still possible to change, although difficult.

3. When it comes to principles, before your emotions, better precise values are also important for the husband. If it is different, should be discussed thoroughly, try to compromise.

4. In a compromise, not to speak with a way of cornering or blame. Since one-one would be considered an objection.

5. Do not argue when children are near you both, to avoid the bad result at a later date. This is because to do so with the mental development of children's future. So to avoid any argument in front of the child.

September 04, 2009

Repair a Marriage

Tips and Trick for Domesticity. there are no marriages without problems, there is nothing wrong with having a fight every now and then. Marriage requires two completely different people, with different attitudes, hobbies and phobias, likes and dislikes; to live under one roof and this ensures a lot of problems doing so.

You probably hear that communication is always the key. And it is - however, the "communication is key" is generally misinterpreted by people. They think that to communicate you have to press your spouse to talk about a certain issue; or apologize to your spouse even if you don't really understand the problem is about.

We primarily communicate as a human by talking and forming sentences. But this does not mean that if there is an issue which needs to be solved in your marriage; the only way to fix it by sitting and directly talking about it. While of course this can be done, often one spouse is not willing to talk about it, or it might simply be the case that when you try to talk about it, a fight inevitably occurs.

Communicating should be done by other means. How about touching? People like to be touched by the ones they love. There is nothing that can cure a relationship as a firm hug. Yes, touching your spouse might not solve the problem of who is going to take care of the child the other day, but it will do a great job to lift the moods of both of you about the marriage.

Keep in mind that solving a problem requires a compromise from one or both of the spouses, and if your spouse feels retaliatory or angry towards you, he or she is not going to be the one who makes the concession. Love is the key - remind your spouse that you love him or her.

August 29, 2009

How to be a great Dad

Tips and Trick for Domesticity .
10 HOW TO BE GREAT DAD

1. Honor mother of your children.
One of the best things he can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage to stay strong and full of vitality.

2. Give some time with your childreen.
How a father to spend time to say what is important to him. If you seem to always be too busy for your children, they will feel abandoned, whatever you say.

3. Effort right to be heard.
Too often the only time the father spoke to his children is when they make a mistake. Start talking to the kids when they were little, so that difficult subjects will be more manageable when they are getting bigger. Take some time and listen to ideas and their problems.

4. Dicipline with you.
All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set boundaries that make sense. Remind your children will reward their actions and give meaningful rewards for desirable behavior.

5. Role Model.
The father is a role model for their children, whether they realize it or not. A girl who spent time with a loving father grows with the knowledge that he deserves to be treated with respect by boys, and what to look for in a husband. The father can teach her son what is important in this life by demonstrating honesty, humility, and responsibility.

6. Be a Teacher.
Too many of my father who thought that teaching is other people's business. But a father who teaches his children about right and wrong and encourage them to do their best to see their children take a good option.

7. Eating together with family.
Eating together (breakfast, lunch, or dinner) can be an important part of a healthy family life. In addition to providing structure to a busy day, it also gives children the opportunity to discuss what they are doing and what they want to do.

8. Reading a story for your children.
Begin reading stories to children since they were little. Once they are older, encourage them to read themselves. Instill a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure your child experiencing personal growth and career life.

9. Show your love.
Children need the peace that comes from knowing that they wanted, they accepted, and loved by the family. Parents, especially the father, needs to get used to embrace his children. Show affection every day is the best way to tell them that you love them.

10. Realize that duties as father never ends.
Even after the big kids and ready to leave rumahpun, they will continue to seek wisdom and advice from his father. Whether about continuing education, new job, or marriage, the father continues to play an important role in the lives of their children as they grow and, perhaps, marry and build their own families.

August 27, 2009

Being a Good Father in the Family

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . Being a good father in the family and the ideal is to demand in each family. Demand for a father, is not only from the pair, but especially from the children. Become her ideal for the demands of children is an urgent and important because the father figure is a precedent in the family.

For a female child, the father is the person closest to her. This relationship will be the basis of the relationship of men and women who akan dialaminya time later adulthood. Ayahlah which is the size and the comparison for each man who later dikenalnya. At the time this is expected to lead the father is able to make a daughter's first steps toward independence. He will be the mediator, who helps the child gadisnya. So that a child can develop the identity of women kewanitaannya reasonably, it requires the type of opponent figures will give the perspective of a man in self mempersepsi and every aspect of life. Therefore the role of the father becomes more important when children aged three to six years, when they enter the period of self-development period.

Is not only a father figure to be important in the growth of children. But the mother also took share in it. The idea is that children need encouragement and good discipline from both parents, so they know where the good and which is not good for their lives in the future. But the father is one of the main examples that can be tiru by their children. When the needs of children can be met with a fair, meaning the father can give enough time and attention, and the mother can give it the attention and understanding enough. Children a good life will not be separated from teaching, attention, and guidance from both parents. And soon your children will develop a perception of masculinity and femininity are also reasonable. For a female child, the father of togetherness is very important. In this case the father is not simply a substitute for the mother when the mother is busy. Father's role is unique and special. Unfortunately, many fathers are too busy or was not looked important role in the nurture and educate children. Because it is too busy with office work and other businesses. Father-my father like this will never know how sweet time and the opportunity they have wasted sia. Because at the time you (the father), playing with his children, of course you can also see the development and growth of the child.

Not all fathers can feel a close relationship with their children. Even if that happens, will usually be mixed with the feelings-feelings of others, such as birth ketakjuban akan events, kelegaaan because everything is running smoothly, and the fatigue. Many people think that the mother always have spiritual ties with their children, and indeed most of the case. While the father is very busy most of the time working with the sera of all activities, but of course you have to set aside a little time to play and communicate on the children.

Take time to play with children
This should always take your child along with you-anaka. Proximity of the father and child can be created through the game. Games-hand side has the advantages of each player position that is balanced. There is no higher or lower. Can appear in a game-humor humor fresh melt stiffness. Things like that certainly will be the memories that will not be forgotten.

Give adequate attention
The children really need the attention away from their parents. Sesibuk-busy with your office job, you must also menyempatkan themselves to call your child at home. Just in the telephone to communicate, children will feel the warmth and pehatian from his father.

Involved in children's events
Events deemed valuable for the children, of different events with the father. For children or sports rivalry game permaian child is the event that has charm and is an event dinanti-looking. So, as much as possible the father put events like that in between the event office meetings and events in the daily agenda.

How to listen to and read stories
Willingness to listen can establish the confidence in the child. The father must feel a "dictator" on himself. Father who would like to hear opinions mean more children in the eyes of children. Children will be more respect for my father who would "give in to listen."

Providing encouragement spirit
Her father is always expected to arouse the spirit of children. For children, the father figure is motivated and able to transmit enthusiasm to their children.

Become a precedent
As much as possible the father is expected to give example to the children. Example here more to the attitude of living life so menyarikan principles. Example do love and respect of others is important for the pattern of children.

Taught to recognize the error
There is no ivory that is not cracked. A father was certainly not escape from the error. Acknowledge the error before the child is perhaps the tersulit. Prestige or shame often becomes a major. However, the children will appreciate that the father would recognize the error, so that they would honestly acknowledge the error.

Thus, physical contact is also a key one for the father who wants to have contact with the inner child. Needed not only mind, but also willingness to experience how the most swing groove poppet, poppet how things smell, how it responds to the surrounding world. The experience of the father of the above, that the experience of spiritual union with his son, also you can have. Not a lot of requirements that must be fulfilled so that we have intimacy with our children. Such closeness can be built through doing daily activities. So, start joining your baby's diaper change. Rawatlah your baby, you spend more time with it, certainly you will have contact with her mind, and really know.