August 25, 2009

Being a Good Father in the Family

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . Being a good father in the family and the ideal is to demand in each family. Keidealan demand for a father, is not only from the pair, but especially from the children. Become her ideal for the demands of children is an urgent and important because the father figure is a precedent in the family.


For a female child, the father is the person closest to her. This relationship will be the basis of the relationship of men and women who akan dialaminya time later adulthood. Ayahlah which is the size and the comparison for each man who later dikenalnya. At the time this is expected to lead the father is able to make a daughter's first steps toward independence. He will be the mediator, who helps the child gadisnya. So that a child can develop the identity of women kewanitaannya reasonably, it requires the type of opponent figures will give the perspective of a man in self mempersepsi and every aspect of life. Therefore the role of the father becomes more important when children aged three to six years, when they enter the period of self-development period.

Is not only a father figure to be important in the growth of children. But the mother also took share in it. The idea is that children need encouragement and good discipline from both parents, so they know where the good and which is not good for their lives in the future. But the father is one of the main examples that can be tiru by their children. When the needs of children can be met with a fair, meaning the father can give enough time and attention, and the mother can give it the attention and understanding enough. Children a good life will not be separated from teaching, attention, and guidance from both parents. And soon your children will develop a perception of masculinity and femininity are also reasonable. For a female child, the father of togetherness is very important. In this case the father is not simply a substitute for the mother when the mother is busy. Father's role is unique and special. Unfortunately, many fathers are too busy or was not looked important role in the nurture and educate children. Because it is too busy with office work and other businesses. Father-my father like this will never know how sweet time and the opportunity they have wasted sia. Because at the time you (the father), playing with his children, of course you can also see the development and growth of the child.

Not all fathers can feel a close relationship with their children. Even if that happens, will usually be mixed with the feelings-feelings of others, such as birth ketakjuban akan events, kelegaaan because everything is running smoothly, and the fatigue. Many people think that the mother always have spiritual ties with their children, and indeed most of the case. While the father is very busy most of the time working with the sera of all activities, but of course you have to set aside a little time to play and communicate on the children.

Take time to play with children
This should always take your child along with you-anaka. Proximity of the father and child can be created through the game. Games-hand side has the advantages of each player position that is balanced. There is no higher or lower. Can appear in a game-humor humor fresh melt stiffness. Things like that certainly will be the memories that will not be forgotten.

Give adequate attention
the children really need the attention away from their parents. Sesibuk-busy with your office job, you must also menyempatkan themselves to call your child at home. Just in the telephone to communicate, children will feel the warmth and pehatian from his father.

Involved in children's events
Events deemed valuable for the children, of different events with the father. For children or sports rivalry game permaian child is the event that has charm and is an event dinanti-looking. So, as much as possible the father put events like that in between the event office meetings and events in the daily agenda.

How to listen to and read stories
Willingness to listen can establish the confidence in the child. The father must feel a "dictator" on himself. Father who would like to hear opinions mean more children in the eyes of children. Children will be more respect for my father who would "give in to listen."

Providing encouragement spirit
Her father is always expected to arouse the spirit of children. For children, the father figure is motivated and able to transmit enthusiasm to their children.

Become a precedent
As much as possible the father is expected to give example to the children. Example here more to the attitude of living life so menyarikan principles. Example do love and respect of others is important for the pattern of children.

Taught to recognize the error
There is no ivory that is not cracked. A father was certainly not escape from the error. Acknowledge the error before the child is perhaps the tersulit. Prestige or shame often becomes a major. However, the children will appreciate that the father would recognize the error, so that they would honestly acknowledge the error.

Thus, physical contact is also a key one for the father who wants to have contact with the inner child. Needed not only mind, but also willingness to experience how the most swing groove poppet, poppet how things smell, how it responds to the surrounding world. The experience of the father of the above, that the experience of spiritual union with his son, also you can have. Not a lot of requirements that must be fulfilled so that we have intimacy with our children. Such closeness can be built through doing daily activities. So, start joining your baby's diaper change. Rawatlah your baby, you spend more time with it, certainly you will have contact with her mind, and really know.

August 23, 2009

Finding Your Love

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . Have you been having relationship challenges? Everyone is always asking themselves and their friends for help in this department. It is true that relating can be a challenge if you let it be.

Did you know that you are in charge of your life and create everything that comes to you? We actually attract our "mirror" to learn about ourselves.

This is a powerful time to manifest everything your heart desires, even a relationship. The relationship dynamic is challenging equally for men and woman. The key to lasting love and finding your mate is to have a positive attitude about it. Women usually say that men are jerks, unreliable, noncommittal, etc. and men actually voice the same opinions. The problem is that all this talk is negative. What you think is what you get. If you think all men/woman are jerks than that is exactly what you will attract to yourself. This just proves your theory. Now that you know that you are responsible for what you create for yourself all you have to do is change the talk and make it positive.

The second step is to think about what is important to you in a relationship. Write a list of everything you want in a man/woman, just leave out insignificant details. For example, leave out height, weight, color, teeth, and a specific type of career. Those details are irrelevant. You could write someone who is available, trusting, dependable, and financially secure or whatever you want. Your list also needs to written positively as if you already have it. Remember this is not a wish list. Don't write I hope, or please, but what you want in terms that you deserve it and will receive it.

The power is in the written word. If you write it down, than the universe can find him/her for you and even set up the meeting.

Trust, believe, and put feeling into your written list and then let it go. Remember only when the time is right your new relationship will manifest for you. It can't be forced, because whether you think you are ready or not, it just might not be the right time for you. Love yourself, love others, and love will come to you.

August 21, 2009

End Your Negative though

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . Do you suffer from a barrage of uncontrollable and debilitating negative thoughts? Have you tried just about everything to make them stop only to have them later return with a vengeance? Well there is a good reason why they haven't permanently disappeared. This reason is also the answer to getting rid of them forever.


Negative thoughts, if you observe them closely as they arise in your awareness, seem to come out of nowhere. It's almost as if your conscious mind temporarily got tuned to some bad radio station and started to pick up this unhealthy signal that disrupts your peace of mind, your ability to focus, attend and concentrate, to make clear decisions, emotional and physical stress,it drains your energy and causes inordinate amounts of mental.

Well that is not far from the truth. That radio station happens to reside in your unconscious mind. The negative signals are being generated by the storehouse of negative memories of your life that are buried there. You see the unconscious mind is the burial ground for negative unwanted emotionally unpleasant memories. Without such a burial ground these memories would constantly flood one's conscious awareness and this would make it next to impossible to function.

There is one small problem however with attempting to simply bury negative memories; they still remain inside you and continue to exert a negative pressure and effect on you and your life. For instance they generate negative emotions, thoughts and self sabotaging behaviors that periodically waft into your life causing a disruption. These disruptions can run the gamut from a simple feeling of annoyance all the way to becoming utterly self destructive.

You see, the veil between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind is rather frail at the boundary. This means that negativity from one's past memories can and does occasionally transgress into conscious awareness. What's more up until recently there was little one could do to effectively deal with this.

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August 20, 2009

Why Marriages Fail For Men

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . let me define what I mean by a man's marriage failing. What I mean here when I say that a marriage fails is that your wife has lost interest in you. Or at least, she's not as interested in you as you'd like.

If it gets bad, she eventually expresses her disinterest in you by either: wanting to leave you or cheating on you. It may happen in degrees, but to whatever extent she's disinterested, the marriage is failing.

So if you want to keep her interest, don't let these reasons why marriages fail happen to you:
1. Ego
Get this one handled first. This is often the first reason why marriages fail. Honestly, step on your ego a little and half your problems will be solved. If you get this handled, you may not even need to know the other two reasons why marriages fail for men. It's your ego that's busy holding grudges, that can't forgive. It's your ego that makes you lose your temper and do stupid things. It's your ego that stops you from learning how to be a bigger man and a better husband. It's your ego that prevents you from repairing your relationship when you've screwed up-unless you're like me and you never screw up. Okay, okay, I admit it, I've screwed up...more times than I care to remember. And you have to. It happens, man. Get over it. Just fix it.

2. Blame
The second reason why marriages fail for men is that they convince themselves that women are the reason why marriages fail. Man, I can't tell you how many times I've heard a husband complain about his wife, and I think to myself, "Dude, she's not the problem. You are." Of course, I often tell him that, too. (It's the tough love I have to give sometimes). Your wife is not the reason why your marriage is failing. Stop blaming your wife for any marriage problems you face. Stop blaming her for how she treats you. Have you ever heard the saying, "We teach people how to treat us?" If you haven't, then you need to write it down right now: "We teach people how to treat us." So ask yourself, "How am I teaching my wife to treat me?"
My wife treats me with honor, love, and respect. She likes to think it's because of what a wonderful woman she is. And she is a wonderful woman. But it's because I won't accept anything less from her.

3. Logic
How can logic be a reason why marriages fail?! Well, read on, and you'll see. How your wife behaves depends on how she feels. And how she feels will never change with logic. So don't try to convince your wife with logic that she should behave differently. It's not about logic. It's about emotion. So get used to thinking in terms of emotion, and not in terms of logic. Many men fail to recognize their wife's emotions, and that's a big reason why marriages fail for them.

On a practical level, what does that mean? For one, it means stop arguing with her and trying to convince her to see things your way. If you inspire her emotions, she'll give everything to please you...even if she thinks you're wrong. Cuz it doesn't matter whether, logically, you're right or wrong. What matters is how you make her feel. Setting aside logic also means that you need to stop judging her feelings. Her feelings are her feelings. It doesn't matter if you think they "make sense" or not. Because it's not about logic; it's about feelings. It's all about emotions.

Stop trying to find "reason" with your wife. Instead, just understand her "emotion".
She's not a guy. She's a girl. Appreciate that. Stop trying to make her like a guy and "straighten" her. Just let her be a girl and enjoy the curvature.

August 19, 2009

When You are Falling Out of Love in Your Marriage

Tips and Trick for Domesticity . I get a lot of very heartfelt emails from people who feel like they are in either the beginning or end stages of "falling out of love" with their spouse. Most of them want to stop this process. They love their family and they don't want to disrupt their life or to do anything or feel anyway that would bring about major life changes. Still, it is human nature to want to be as happy and fulfilled as you are capable of being. And one of the strongest of all human urges is to love and be loved. So, you are likely to feel and experience this void very deeply, if you feel that this is missing from your life, especially within your own home or within your own marriage.

Even so, recognizing what is happening is the first step in fixing it, and I know first hand that it can be fixed in most cases. I firmly believe that most of the time, it is not the feelings that have changed, it is the circumstances that have.

Are You Participating In The Behaviors And Experiences That Will Keep You "In Love" With Your Spouse?: Often when people tell me that they are falling out of love, I ask them how much time they spend doing the things that they and their spouse enjoy together. In other words, what types of activities did you enjoy when you were
falling in love, and how often do you do these today? Often, people will pause, shuffle their feet, look down, or begin to spout of the laundry list of tasks and chores that define their lives today. These phrases are usually prefaced with things like "yeah, but.."

I understand this. We all have so many obligations that it can feel like we are literally swimming in them. And, it's not that we don't want to take or make time for our spouse, it's just that it can be, well, very difficult to juggle it all. I'm not bringing this up to elicit guilt or blame. Most everyone is guilty of this to some extent or another. But, few of us are able to look at this with some clarity and see the direct correlation between the QUALITY of time spent together and the QUALITY and intensity of the way that we feel about our spouses.

If we are only giving a lukewarm or "passable" attempt, then we are only going to get a lukewarm or passable result. This is true in all aspects of life, not just relationships. But, this lopsidedness will become quite evident in your marriage over time, no matter how good your intentions and no matter how much you really are committed to your spouse. You simply can not neglect the relationship and yet except to feel the same intense feelings.

If you took one day to witness how you interact with your spouse as an objective outsider, I'll bet you might be surprised at what you would see. I really was quite stunned when I did this exercise. I really did not find myself holding hands with my husband or spontaneously touching him. My therapist asked me to contrast this when we were first dating and of course, the difference was startling. She asked me to begin to focus just on one thing each day to bring us both physically or emotionally closer. This could be one back rub and for once, taking five minutes to really listen to what he was saying without absent mindedly sorting the mail. These small efforts helped me to see things from a different perspective.

Why Passion Always Fades (Even If You Really Do Love Your Spouse): I once had a therapist tell me something that I now often tell my readers. When I was confessing that the & and chemistry seemed to be exiting my marriage (mostly on the part of my husband) she told me that this is inevitable. What people define as the fireworks and the spark will often make it's grand exit because these things are based on "novelty, mystery, and discovery.

Well, when you are together for a while, these things can't help but leave the equation somewhat. You pass that phase where you are learning new, exciting and novel things about each other. The mystery leaves and you often turn your attention to the new discoveries that you can make about your children or your career. This isn't your fault, but it is the way that it is. You can change it though. You can concentrate on continue to discover new things about one another. You can shake things up a bit to create new novelty. You can travel together and experience new things so that you are always in a position to make new discoveries in an environment is conducive to excitement and enthusiasm.

Getting Started: When I tell people that they should start tweaking their circumstances and experiences today, they are often quite hesitant. They are reluctant to step out side of their comfort zone or to be the only one who is interested in changing things. It can feel really vulnerable to take the initiative, but someone has to and the rewards are going to be yours. Making your spouse happier and giving them more attention is only going to benefit you. Their happiness is sure to pay dividends to you when they return this favor.

Take small steps. Focus on giving a little bit more time and effort each day. Focus on finding things that you can both enjoy and look forward to. You do not want for this to feel like hard work or something that you have to convince yourself that you should or want to do. You should chose things that you will find appealing so that you will actually want to do them and will want to share them with your spouse.

Over time, as you begin to commit more time and effort, you will start to see meaningful changes in the intensity of your feelings. It truly is a very simple equation. Quality in almost always equals quality out. This is true in all things - even marriage.

There was a time that I thought my marriage was truly at it's end. My husband had totally checked out, had made clear that he was no longer "in love" with me, and would not lift a finger to help me reconcile the marriage. Thankfully, even though I had doubts, I decided to try one last thing, to give a little more, and to approach it from another angle and this eventually worked.

August 13, 2009

9 children desire

Tips and Tricks For Domesticity In fact, children have no hope to parents. They want parents who have time to spare for it, who want to share,and so forth. Too busy, that's the reason why many cliche parents who finally delivered on the affairs of the small baby sitter or adjuvant. In fact, children want their parents looking at them like that. What's more the desire that children need to know the parents?

1. Spare time
Yes, you busy outside the home, because surely the purpose of working for children as well. However, children also want you have time to spare for him. So, you have to manage smart your time. That you should set the holiday diusik no longer work with. Use this holiday time with children.

2. Affection
Needs of children not only physical needs. This often does not realize the parents are busy in carrier. They think, overflowing with children's property is sufficient. In fact, the affection and attention that you are most important to children. Form of attention should not only gifts, but with menemaninya study or play, is enough to make children happy.

3. NOT altercate
Parents sometimes do not realize, when they heighten emotions, be a problem child. Bicker in front of children so ago is no longer a problem, no matter whether the children feel depressed or not, the anger that can be important terlampiaskan. This is clearly wrong. May-be just you and your partner quarrel, but not in front of children. The psychological, this is not good for child development. Soul akan akan he was depressed and confused, who should be wrong. is His father or his mother ? Well, if problems appear, it is not completed when the children in the house or sleeping, so he does not see or hear the parents'altercate.

4. YOU DO NOT SELECT
Ninies have 2 children. Lisa and Ori. The little attention given the Ori more than Lisa. She think, the sisters will also understand that her sister the youngest. So, only if he reasonably valid way.
In fact, it is clearly wrong and does not educate. Do not occasionally distinguish between children love the one with the other children. Clearly this will make the child dinomorduakan jealous. Never make a limitation, the tooth should be more than a great love.

5. kindness
Attitude of parents who are not friends at the small akan clearly does not make children feel comfortable. And this happens very often. When parents bete and not ready to accept the return of their child's friend, there are bad attitudes. Therefore, although the mood is not comfortable, try to remain friendly disposed friends poppet. Remember, children do not receive such treatment and will struggle if their parents are so ashemed.

6. Fulfill promise
The promise is a debt that must be ditepati. This is often forgotten by the parents. They were considered trivial and does not need to feel they must always keep his promise on the poppet. Can be, forget the parents, but should avoid broken promises. Clearly, children are disappointed that culminate with the cranky and nangis action.
Never give a promise to the child, if it is only your intended joke or not seriously. You do not want, is not it, children labeled as parents liar? If you already have an appointment, should be fulfill.

7. Smart
Another thing you need to know, that children also have parents want a smart and businesslike. There must be a professor, but he always asked, you can answer it.
Give answers that make sense. Should, provide a simple and not too complicated, because it will make the children confused. In the case studies, for example, you can follow the development of the children learn from day to day, and read the lesson book. Thus, you will find a solution when the child had difficulty in learning.

8. SO FRIENDS
Relationships between parents and children are often not in harmony, because their parents make a restriction, not mengakrabkan on children with reason so that reticent children. In fact, as children, they also want parents to become not only a place to ask for or take shelter, but can also be invited to share.
It does not realize that sometimes the parents. Difficult to diffuse in the lives of children, create distance, and did not want to know the problems faced by children. From now on, try to re-arrange the relationship you and your children to be more familiar. So your position not only as parents, but also as a friend.

9. Ability Troubleshooting
Often, parents do not realize sikapnya, and complain in front of children. Your complaint also diverse, from the family's affairs until the work of the small ruffle. How does not want, this involves the child to participate in thinking that the problem you encountered. In fact, it is not necessary. Why should I share my problems with the child? What can you expect from a child that is still small and the pattern are not knowledgeable? Even if the children give opinions, you are not satisfied because it is not as you expect. So, discuss your problems with people or couples who are older and understand the problem.